How To Deal With Aggression In Children

July 13, 2016
  • Every child goes through an aggression phase. Let it be the terrible two’s or the troublesome three’s, a child is sure to arrive at a particular stage where it becomes overwhelmingly aggressive than ever before. Don’t be worried because this is just a phase and will soon pass. But what the parents need to keep in mind with regard to this scenario is that ultimately what matters is that how parents deal with the children during this phase will have a huge impact on how the children will react to future emotional turmoil in themselves and how they will cope with aggression in the coming future.

    Here are a few pointers to help parents to cope with the aggressive behaviour of the children-

    Physical punishment is a big no no. Meeting aggression with aggression will only result in more aggressive behaviour. A parent must remember to be patient and gentle at all times, no matter how trying the circumstances might be. It has been proven that harsh physical punishments contribute to elevated aggressive behaviour in children. Above all, if a parent responds with anger to the child’s aggressive behaviour, the children tend to do the same. Because parents are the prime role models to the children and children look up to them.

    Parents and their behaviour are a vital component in a child’s character building. So, it’s upon the parent’s shoulders to ensure that their children learn only the best by making sure that they the parents themselves are on their best behaviour. Parents must make it a critical aspect not to be aggressive, verbally or physically, in front of their children at any cost. Parents must strive to help the younger ones understand their feelings better and help them express it better.

    Reward the children when they try not be aggressive or exhibit good appropriate behaviour. It is the duty of the parent to not just point out bad behaviour but also acknowledge the good behaviour as well. By complimenting them or praising them, the parents are letting the children know what is expected of them. Because when the children realise that their parents are happy and proud of them for exhibiting a particular kind of behaviour, the children they themselves get an ego boost. The parents need to remember that a simple ‘well done’ goes a long way.

    Communicate with your child, sit down with them and try to understand the reasons for their aggressive behaviour. Help them cope with aggression by letting them know of appropriate coping mechanisms. Clearly, explain to them what kind of behaviour is accepted and what is not. Set goals and reward the child accordingly for their efforts.

    Summary-Aggression is something that helps build character in children. It is something that requires work from both the parents and the child. Communication and understanding is a vital ingredient in dealing with aggression. Parent need to bear in mind that they cannot enforce good behaviour on to children. It needs to be taught with patience.


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