Tips To Help You Master The Art Of ‘Disciplining’ Your Child

November 02, 2016

Most parents find it hard when teaching children ‘discipline.’ It doesn’t help that the perspective with which parents approach a situation involving a child is so much different from the outlook the child views the world around it. And overcoming this barrier of ‘misunderstanding’ is perhaps the most vital and difficult of all when it comes to parenting. Never the less as a parent you will be required to teach your child ‘discipline.’ Violence or threats will never truly teach discipline, they will most normally lead to frustration, fear and eventually becomes resistance in your children. Here are a few tips on how to discipline your child the right way and in the effective as well as efficient way possible.

In order to discipline your child, the foundation of their character development must be strong. In order for that to be strong, your child must feel respected. You needn’t be explicit in that but show it in your actions and the way you treat your child.

In the event that your child fusses with something like a toy or food, remove the object in question. Try to gather the attention of your child by making eye contact (by kneeling down or bending down) and distracting them with a new object of interest. Small children have a short attention span, use that to your advantage.  This way you are being polite and respecting them at the same time.

Teach your child the importance of respect by showing him-that to be respected, he/she must give respect. As a parent you must lead by example here. When your child has something to show or tell, pay attention, listen attentively. Body language is very important. Remember your child learns what you show him.

Letting your child know that he/she will not always have their way is important. Set limits, let them experience feelings like disappointment, sadness and frustration. Help him/her work their way through it. This is an important practice for character development and disciplining.

Remember to reward the child good behavior but make sure he/she works for it. Design a reward system, the reward need not be big or expensive but must make your child happy.

Finally, time outs are essential not just for you but your child as well. There will come a time when you are very tired and too frustrated to deal with the child since none of you are ready to comply to each other. So, have a time out. Let the child stay away from you and its toys. By being alone his/her anger subsides (along with yours) and will be much more complying in the future to avoid this unpleasant situation. But after every time out, let your child know that he/she is loved by hugging or kissing them.

Summary- Raising a child is something parents do by instinct. But disciplining a child that will require some in depth thinking, understanding and the patience to be patient in every instance. Violence never teach discipline, it just forces your child into submission but that will never last for long. Practice, patience and priorities are the three important components when it comes to disciplining your child.

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